Mental coaching, the keys to achieving your goals. - Mynd.ch

Mental coaching, the keys to achieving your goals.

IN LIFE, NO MATTER WHAT CHALLENGE YOU WANT TO OVERCOME OR WHAT PROBLEM YOU HAVE TO SOLVE, SETTING GOALS IS CRUCIAL. YOU STILL HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO DO IT INTELLIGENTLY, AND HOW TO BOUNCE BACK IN CASE OF FAILURE. Adrien Bauer, FSP clinical psychologist in Geneva and psychotherapist in training, tells us more.

S.M.A.R.T

Quitting on smoking, overcoming your shy behaviour, or even finding your way, our lives are made up of many challenges. Deciding to confront them in order to meet them allows us to evolve and to tend towards a more fulfilled social life. But practically, meeting personal challenges does not turn out to be so easy. For Adrien Bauer, FSP psychologist working in private practice in Geneva, it is above all a matter of moving forward by setting “smart goals”.

«Smart here is the acronym for specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-bound. Because setting a goal does not simply consist in imagining an ideal result, it is also and above all a matter of first identifying its ins and outs. »

SMART

An objective should not be too general. On the contrary, care must be taken to formulate it accurately. For example, wanting to conquer your anxiety. But in what situation, where, when? Am I anxious in the presence of crowds, talking to certain people, on public transport? By defining a specific objective, we thus give ourselves the possibility of being able to know precisely when we would have reached it.

This involves defining a goal that can be measured, by evaluating it with a pre/post-test. I want to reduce my tobacco consumption in two months? Ok, how many cigarettes did I smoke before, and how many do I smoke eight weeks later?

A goal must remain within my reach and must make sense. No need to aim for the moon if for the first time. Going there in achievable stages is essential. I want to conquer my shy behaviour? Hence, I start resolving this by talking to someone I do not know before I give a lecture in public.

To be achievable, a goal involves many concrete settings. Do I have the financial means, the time, or the basic conditions to get started? I want to climb the legendary passes of the Tour de France? Do I have the time to train several days a week, and do I have the means (and the desire) to buy myself a high-performance bike?

An objective is spread out and measured over time. It is a question of delineating a temporality wherein we are going to put ourselves there, to make an effort, then observe its progress.

To understand genuinely how the achievement of his goals works, Adrien Bauer also played the true/false game to give us some of his tips.

True/False game

It is easier to achieve your goals with the help of a coach.

TRUE AND FALSE

It all depends on the person, his ability to change on his own, his change strategies or even his ability to benefit from the intervention of a coach. Some people are very successful at changing on their own, without resorting to coaching. On the other hand, what is certain is that a coach will help plan, structure, and support the change process. Beyond the help he provides, it is the quality of the relationship with his client that will be decisive. Usually, the coach is likely to save time.

A coach will give us all the solutions to achieve his goals.
FALSE

The coach will especially seek to know the solutions that have been tested by the person, and for what reasons they failed. The work is then done in alliance and the role of the coach consists above all in guiding the person so that he develops the capacity to establish the processes of change by himself, by applying the solutions which he personally needs.

Mental coaching, the keys to achieving your goals.
Once a goal is reached, it then becomes forever.

TRUE

We must not confuse between goal and progress. If the goal was to be smoke-free for eight weeks and then once again smoke a cigarette afterwards, there is a loss of progress in not smoking. But the goal of eight weeks abstinence has been achieved. Be aware that behaviours like smoking are learned through repetition and are stored in the brain in the form of neural networks. To quit smoking, we must succeed in creating and strengthening the neural network of abstinence behaviour. For this, it is necessary to sufficiently repeat it for the brain to turn it automatically. It will end up dominating the neural network of smoking which will then die out (and not disappear). In our example, the eight weeks spent without smoking served to strengthen the neural network of abstinence, even if the person relapsed and subsequently smoked a cigarette.

It is better to move forward in stages, setting intermediate levels, to reach the final goal.

TRUE

When faced with a goal that is too large, it is common to become discouraged, to procrastinate and sometimes to even abandon our process of change. Goals defined in small, easily achievable steps increase the chances of success by gradually progressing from success to success.

Mental coaching, the keys to achieving your goals.
Not directly achieving all your goals is a failure.

TRUE

However, failure is not inevitable. On the contrary, failure, or error, is a learning opportunity. It is part of the process. This is precisely where the role of the coach is of great importance since, he must be able to find meaning in failure in order to provoke the resilience in the person that he is accompanying. Everyone makes mistakes. Especially when we are trying to learn new skills. Not doing it means that we do not advance, that we do not try to change, that we do not risk anything. This ties in with the philosophy of poker legend Daniel Negreanu, who explains that the only mistake is not learning from your mistakes.

 

And you, what is your goal? Try a free session with one of our mynd coaches.

written by Thomas Pfefferlé

You might also enjoy
Myn Logo white

Can we help?